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Nov 5, 2023Liked by Frederik Gieschen

It's nice piece, and any day meaningful relationships are way more important than blind pursuit of power and wealth.

But ask anyone. Some of our biggest source of pain and suffering comes from our deepest relationships! Blinding, cutting, searing pain. A pain that blows the roof off of our lives.

So I think this discovery is just the beginning of the search of our journey. A journey towards true and lasting happiness.

We're souls crashing around in the darkness. I think we won't be truly happy unless we turn our hearts to the Divine living inside us.

And that takes insane courage.

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Indeed. The more meaningful the relationship, the deeper the bond, the more vulnerability that has been offered, the greater the possible hurt. Such is our lot.

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Nov 7, 2023Liked by Frederik Gieschen

I think there is a way out of this dilemma though. But it's easier said than done.

When you love simply to give, without any expectations whatsoever, even not expecting the other person loves you back. Cause the moment you do that, its not Love--it becomes business. The ego kicks in.

True Love I think is strong. It just lives in the joy and expansion of giving. Then when the other person walks away from you, dies, you're still strong and don't get hurt too much. You'll miss them but you're not miserable.

Someone once said, Love is just love. That's it. It stops there. Anything else you add on it--she loves me back, he should be like this....is a projection of the ego. Because you just loved to give.

Of course, this kind of love is truly rare to find.

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I agree that the goal should be love without expectations. It starts with self love. Osho called it the first ripple from which all other love spreads out. That is, unfortunately, a difficult place to reach for many.

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Yes. True.

But what people think of 'Self' is normally mind-body-ego. What Osho refers to Self is the Aatma, the Spirit, the Witness consciousness. The spark of the Divine. How many people can access that?

And given Osho's life, I bet even he didn't.

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I could totally see your point and I think the only comfort I could offer is the quote from Charlie Munger, 'get the toxic people out, fast'

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True that.

But not all people are 'bosses' or colleagues.

Sometimes they're dead close. You just can't snap your fingers and shut them out.

Sometimes for the sake of higher duty, you need to do your jail sentence.

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Great piece and thanks for sharing the insights. It is interesting that we often need to fight the advertising agenda in order to appreciate the simple things in life. I hope you enjoyed your trip!

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Nov 7, 2023Liked by Frederik Gieschen

Amen. On happiness: “Though perceived externally, it is an inside job. It’s less about the smile and more so the soul. It is assurance of one’s goodness by doing right by yourself, your loved ones, your world.

Above all, happiness is a byproduct, not a destination or end all be all.

It is not a target at which to aim, but an outcome which to savor.

How can one find it?” https://www.whitenoise.email/p/happy-is-as-happy-does

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Thank you for sharing the piece!

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Your writing is excellent. Thank you for sharing with honesty and authenticity. It is a gift to hear your thought process as you work through one important idea after another. It deeply resonates with me. Have a great day.

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Thank you, Tyler!

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Hope you had a great time upstate. Nature and exercise always heal - the simple things

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Loved this piece !

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Thank you!

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Greetings from Greece!

Appreciate the interaction!

(Also, shared this one on my LinkedIn)

Keep well 💪

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Thank you. An amazing text!

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